my husband married another woman islam

I remembered so many years ago when the life of another woman depended on my decision and what my decision was. Nobodys perfect.Perhaps your husband isnt a Muslim scholar. Those were my words to my husband a few years ago when he mentioned to me that he is intending to marry again a second time. Jazakallah khair, I have been in the same situation as Paula I too fully supported my husband..he controlled passwords to my phone ipad etc. This is a very great blessing indeed, which is not appreciated by Im really not in the mood.. no one can add or reduce quran, To those of you brothers who work at trying to be kind, considerate and loving to your wives, may Allah give you an enormous reward. I am not Muslim, however I respect/support his beliefs and the teachings/love of Allah. Neglecting my children and the business. Establishment of kinship among fellow human beings. So please dont act like its forced on you, on the contrary you DO need to ask your wife for permission before taking another wife. I would suggest acknowledging the layers of your relationship with him and the in-laws to have a better sense of how to orient your discussions. do all this before you sleep and insha allah you will finally realise a lot more about a real marriage. Polygamy, Not My Problem- A Muslim Woman. in fact id start to wonder if he had been playing away, or at least pocket billiard rather too often.. if he ALWAYS seems to be content when you say you are just so considerate.. sorry but it aint your decision if he goes to hell or not, in fact if allowing him to marry keeps your marriage together, then abundant hassanat will fall on you, in fact more to you than to your husband. Hmmmm. In Islam, men are taught from a young age that they are supposed to be the bread-winners and caretakers of their families. I am a devout Muslim but multiple marriages disgust me. (3) Dispute over marriage between the lady and her husband.. Marriage contract involving an unidentified woman: Death, if the.In general, the marriage of a married woman, or of . I know someone who says he loves his wife and yet wants to get married again! (i.e. Also, there was and probably always be more women in the world than men, so technically you are leaving some poor Muslim sister without a loving husband to care for her. (3) Will become a midwife. relationships such as zina, and sometimes it results in permissible iii) If he is not satisfied with his first wife in serious matters. I m growing alone his child( as Ive got pregnant when we broke up) and believe me it hurts more when your child grows without father. To My Sisters who swears against sharing their husbands with other Sisters as Allah Taala enjoins (for HE knows best): you will SURELY loose him to his CREATOR (SWT) someday. First weeks were reat but now lot of times we argued really bad even fight. Even I agree with it, wat do u hav to say for this.? Though Islam permits man to have more than a wife, it stipulates that certain conditions are to be met in this regard, for Islam's main focus is on building a stable marital life. Ameen. Lastly, make sincere dua that Allah SWT blesses you with someone who will love, respect and be a good role model for you and this is the best outcome inshaAllah. I guess this is life and we should always say Alhamdulliah. In the end your own integrity makes you stay loyal. Not all Muslim are same, you are talking about a handful. i`m not able to give my second husband a baby. That is a bit of a dangerous position to be in. but women are allowed to ask for KHULA (which is automatically granted) if man is impotent. Muhsinoon (gooddoers) to be lost Women should follow the good example of the wives of the SubhanAllah ladies , stop being selfish . 100355. salam,im sure the article written is in good faith n might help some but by God centuries have passed in trying to teach women how to make their husbands happy,not that theres no more need 4 it yet its about time as per the holyQuran when women will ask what my fault was!!! You may want to read aboutSincere Islamic Ways to Treat Your Wife. this waa not my decision but it was the doctor who told me to do an abortion as my baby skul did not formed and he would died as soon as he take birth.truly I did not want to do abortion but it was hubby who convinced me to do that.after abortion I had to do curettage.n truly I was appreciated when hubby took great care of me on the hospital. know where his interests lie, so he prays istikhaarah asking that Allaah And men have all and every right to get married 4 times if he can afford it remember ladies , no he doesnt need permission from you but its better you discuss about it . family life, and the man wishes for a wife with whom he can live in peace, The TLC newcomer was in a long-distance relationship with her then-boyfriend . His age 31. Sometimes we screw it up and forget our anniversary. ITS THE HOLY QURAN SO ITS ALLAH WORDS THAT WE R TO OBEY CLEARLY ALLAH KNOWNS ALL THINGS TO B TRUE . There may be polygamy in order to spread Islam. No woman wil b happy readin it n am openly sayin out my opinion coz there aint no hadith or ayat backin d point dat ur husband thinks abt other women. [Yoosuf 12:90], Is there any reward for good other than good?, And verily, Allaah is with the Muhsinoon (good-doers). If you insist on self respect from the beginning then it will be the core of your lone life together In Sha Allah. A week after he came back, he told me that he had got married in Egypt. Sometimes, dream about husband getting married to another woman indicates domesticity. JAK for this comment! He did the same. InshaAllah we all better ourselves and our relationships. Although I did very much appreciate zuhrAs story. It is far easier for man to get back in mood for sex than a women. The men who want to do the second marriage should be carefully thought through. Alhamdulillah Allahs made it a fair play for both men and women. Is he repeating some move he saw in a movie? , Just wanted to add, dont be afraid to compliment him. Doesnt mean we are gonna fuck them. When you said you will send him back home Noor was recently married. Life is no life without peace. Will Allah still be angry with me if I stop having any feeling for him? I love my husband sooooo very much, and he is wonderful! Astagfirullah Allah forgive us all ameen. THAT is why it was allowed, so that they could have someone to care for them. Fourth, never EVER speak about what happened between you to anyone else. The context of this phrase is the following verse from Surah Nisa of the Glorious Quran: Marry woman of your choice in twos threes or fours but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly, (with them), then only one [Al-Quran 4:3], Before the Quran was revealed, there was no upper limit for polygyny and many men had scores of wives, some even hundreds. A woman who cannot conceive a child doesnt have to be frigid. I want to stay by his side, to love him respect him appreciate him and satisfy him without feeling like its all one sided and without feeling like he doesnt deserve it i want to feel respected appreciated and worthwhile but how can i feel that if Im clearly not even worth a days work?? We had 5 kids and he had been an active Leader in our Catholic Church organization. Because then hell start feeling that you dont respect (theres that word again) the things he does do for you. Handsome. The reason lies in the high rate of female infanticide in India, and the fact that more than one million female foetuses are aborted every year in this country, after they are identified as females. No man can do justice with all wifes its impossible thats why that line was put in their therefor it is not allowed but Allah will forgive you if you seek his forgiveness. At least sisters are ambitious ,take their deen seriously and the roles seriously. interests and desires? There is a reason why the majority of inhabitants in Jahhanam are women. After all, as Muslims, we SUBMIT our will to ALLAAHs. MY FELLOW MUSLIMAHLETS GET CLOSE TO ALLAHSO WE CAN GET OUR HUSBANDS TO BE CLOSE TO US..INSHA ALLAH.. Im in agreement with the comments however one thing i feel is never addressed is what if the husband does not fulfill his basic duties as a husband/father? Abu Dhar al-Ghafari reported: The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: there is a reward for you [even] in sex with your wife. The companions asked: O Messenger of Allah (saws) is there a reward if one satisfies his passion? He (saws) said: Do you know that if he satisfies it unlawfully he has taken a sin upon himself? Questions cannot be asked through this form, Plural marriage and fair treatment of co-wives. How she feels is less valuable than him getting off. Just because your husband doesnt treat you in the way (you think) the Prophet (pbuh) treated his wives, doesnt mean your husband doesnt love you. 3) If she loves U she will have eyes for NO ONE ELSE. But if he does not do it purposely then he wont get sins. You may think leaving is the hardest thing to do (it takes courage) but have faith Allah will guide you. You said it !! How can a man who is supposed to love his wife in illness and health be able to make love to another woman? And most men take advantage of that they have the women work, and then come home to cook and take care of the kids. Sharing his love, his smiles, his jokes with a woman other than myself. No man likes sharing his woman or losing her to another man. The difference is of course in the idea that what we do is more for the sake of Allah Taaalaa than for ourselves. I also find it kind of wrong how the writer kind of placed the responsibility of being faithful on the wife. What, he gave her Mahr money, so now he owns her and shes his sex slave? I raised 3 of his beautiful children. commitment. Your words reminded me of my faults and short comings and that i have caused many of the problems in my marriage. May Allah forgive you, Salam, I would like to adress the author regarding 4th point. Like, she still performs her duties and obeys/respects her husband, but it hurts her so much she even cries during intercourse with her husband as he did the same with another woman. It is allowed in Islam and he does not need permission. Ds my true life I am leaving with Allahs mercy. I could not imagine myself in a plural marriage. Just so you know amongst those good humans are the good MUSLIMS. How many of us men are amirs or princes living a lavish lifestyle. doing something that is haraam, so how can he pray istikhaarah and claim Theyre not loyal. May God help you in your situation ameen. Annie, I realize this article dated from 2017 and you asked a fantastic question. An outrage. Ok guys , what I have to say has almost nothing to to with the article, and I apologize.I was just wondering what should a single, unmarrigiable women do when the desires that Allah Swt have her takes over.like I am under the marrigiable age. I like to watch tv on the rare times Im not not being called for surgery. i have done all types of treatment but no result. this is bcoz during prophet mohamed tme many men died due to war, so their wife and family should not be helpless or they wont go in wrong way. If he wants a second wife just because he wants another to have sex, if we accept their nature, so he is going to keep loving us. It is unlikely that marrying in secret is holistically aligned with being honest, sincere, and responsible. 8. Marriage Dream Explanation Seeing a woman taking a second husband can have three interpretations: (1) If she is pregnant, she will give birth to a girl. 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